Tuesday, 26 June 2012


hello everyone,
I know too many people have read or heard about Chris okotie marriage divorce and honestly speaking it is worth alarming. As I posted earlier on on this blog the bible quotations concerning marriage’s. I  also had to analyzed in some research I have done and come out with some reasons why people stay single or divorce after getting married let me say this in advance I am still single and hoping to marry so this apply to each and every person out there who is not married and wants to be. But, let’s be real some of it does apply to the married also.
Lots of women out there wants independence so much that they neglect the duty and right of a man (husband) this is what most of us say "I don't need someone to take care of me, I have a successful job/career, my own house, family, etc. I enjoy my privacy, freedom and personal and financial independence. I see no benefit to getting entangled in anything more than a nice relationship."It is good but wrong.
You’re loose (as in you give it up way too easy) and is not good at all
Hooking up with some guy at any place is fine for the ladies after all but they’re not trying to get married. You are. This means, unfortunately, that if you’re having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin — it doesn’t stay recreational for long.

You’re Not Good Enough.
I do not think that for you. You did thought for yourself. I can tell because you’re not looking for a partner who is your equal. No, you want someone better than you are: better looking, better family, better job

Previous marriages
Past marital experiences have left some people cool on marriage. You get divorcee you jump into another. what makes you think the current will work..work out your previous one that’s the answer.
Lack of Commitment
For many couples the marriage vows are just a ceremony and do not follow or keep the commitment made through the vows to the partner. They tend to forget that it takes commitment to nurture any relationship than looking for quick fix solutions and giving up too easily.
Family background
People who come from divorced home is likely to end up same way. Many of those children do not have believe and faith on the institution created and designed by God therefore they can salvage their home at anytime
Marriage is not just about physical compatibility; the couple should have mental compatibility as well to have a successful marriage. When the couple is not in tune with each other’s feelings then there is a higher chance that they might end up divorcing.
Lack of Physical Attraction
As years go by its quite natural for the couples to lose interest in maintaining their beauty and health. Such a situation can get the partner to stray thereby resulting in divorce. Further there are men who marry ugly or physically handicapped girls just for the hefty dowry they could bring without giving much importance to their appearance. Once the money is gone their dissatisfaction can cause physical and verbal abuse resulting in the marriage breaking up.
Lack of communication
Lack of communication between couples can be a major reason for break up. A marriage is on the rocks when the lines of communication fail. Many expect their partners to guess what they want or what their problem is without communicating. Because of this sometimes even small misunderstandings end up in divorce.
However, marriage is not about getting something, it’s about giving it. The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Once you are in no going back till death comes knocking…..for the single look well before you enter. For those in already exercise patience and with prayers things can change for better.


  1. wow this is alot to read. Nice piece.

  2. very good one keep it up