Tuesday, 28 February 2012

Hello everyone,
How i have missed you guys and my blooging. i have been busy and so many things took me away from my hobby lol (don't say am too known). the week has been so so so busy, but let me not bore you guys with this speech.
During my absence i have been thinking on a topic acually it's just a classwork given to me by my lecturer  “Alcohol and Drug Abuse ”in the business settings. This has really caught my attention and i began researching and writing on it. This is what i have......

An alcoholic is anyone who suffers from the disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a physical condition whereby the body of an alcoholic has become physiologically dependent on alcohol. Alcoholism is a physical condition and the active alcoholic is in the throws of a true physical addiction. Alcoholics cannot control their drinking habits and will often drink compulsively
Alcoholism is a broad term for problems with alcohol, and is generally used to mean compulsive and uncontrolled consumption of alcoholic beverages, usually to the detriment of the drinker's health, personal relationships, and social standing.
Like many other diseases, alcoholism is progressive and can become deadly. If left untreated, an alcoholic is at risk of developing serious health problems. Alcohol affects all the organs in the body, particularly the liver, heart, and pancreas. It also affects brain functioning and, in extreme cases, can cause brain damage.
There are some alcoholics that may be aware that their drinking is problematic. They may have tried to quit on their own but have failed at their attempts. Unfortunately, many alcoholics will suffer from feelings of hopelessness and depression due to their inability to quick drinking on their own. Other alcoholics will simply deny that they have a drinking problem whatsoever. Alcoholics can come up with a number of excuses to justify their drinking, i.e. blaming it on work, stress or a relationship. Their denial can be so powerful that they simply cannot see how much their drinking is causing negative consequences in their life.
Many people do not understand why or how other people become addicted to drugs. It can be wrongfully assumed that drug abusers lack moral principles or willpower and that they could stop using drugs simply by choosing to change their behavior. In reality, drug addiction is a complex disease, and quitting takes more than good intentions. In fact, because drugs change the brain in ways that foster compulsive drug abuse, quitting is difficult, even for those who are ready to do so.
Drug abuse is a disease characterized by continued misuse of drugs even when faced with drug-related job, legal, health, or family difficulties. Problems associated with drug abuse must have existed a minimum of 12 months to meet the diagnosis.
Addiction is a chronic, often relapsing brain disease that causes compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences to the addicted individual and to those around him or her. Although the initial decision to take drugs is voluntary for most people, the brain changes that occur over time challenge a person’s self control and ability to resist intense impulses urging them to take drugs. Examples are Cocaine, Heroin, Marijuana etc
 Drug abuse and addiction have negative consequences for individuals, for society and for the organization. Estimates of the total overall costs of substance abuse in the United States, including productivity and health- and crime-related costs, exceed $600 billion annually. This includes approximately $181 billion for illicit drugs, $193 billion for tobacco, and $235 billion for alcohol. As staggering as these numbers are, they do not fully describe the breadth of destructive public health and safety implications of drug abuse and addiction, such as family disintegration, loss of employment, failure in school, domestic violence, and child abuse.
According to Scanlon (1986), employee alcoholism and drug abuse are estimated to cost American business at least $26 billion total; ($16 billion and $10 billion respectively), with $16 billion of this total cost directly related to lost employee productivity, absenteeism, medical expenses, disability claims, and corporate theft. Furthermore, more recent data show that drinking problems cost employers $2,500 per employee per year in productivity losses, absenteeism, and disability benefit claims, amounting to $15 to $20 billion a year (Scanlon, 1991). All of these costs are ultimately passed on to consumers in the form of higher prices and/or higher taxes.  According to Lipman, 1995, “Employers pay dearly for drug abuse problems in the workplace. Drug abuse seriously erodes an employer's financial standing and reduces a company's ability to compete, costing businesses $60 billion each year.
There is no cure for drug abuse or drug addiction. Although there are three main treatment goals. To help patients stop using drugs, to decrease the toxic effects of the drugs being used and to aid in symptoms of drug withdrawal (“detoxification”) to prevent relapse. Successful treatment depends on the drug user's recognition of the problem and desire to change. Recovery takes a long time and is not an easy process. Patients may need multiple courses of treatment.
 And after writing on this i say to myself, this is where human resource management will have to come in, as an HR manager this is what they have to do....
·         Give the employee counselling.
·         Let them go through training.
·         Always check the performance preview records, with that the HR manager can be able to check on their work performance and know who lacks behind and the cause.
·         Document their charcter and attitude towards work just incase of any court case, cos those emplyees are educated and can hite back when they feel you want to fire them.
·         And do not discriminate base on their problem
......TO BE CONT.

Wednesday, 15 February 2012

live your life

Don't ever let circumstances, events, or other people tell you that you can't do something. You deserve to experience a life of joy, freedom, and completeness. Just don't give up.  Sometimes life knocks me down but i don’t give up. All i do is to get up dust myself and move forward cos i’av learnt that life is but a race.....if you don’t work, you won’t earn it.

Some people do not understand the concept of just living, rather we live by the concept of others. Most of us example me are bound by someone else's concept of life. Society has made who we are. Even though we don’t believe this but our thoughts, free flow ideals, whatever the category are not really our own. Therefore we are the product of this world or society and that is why we will keep trying to come up with our own concept and live the way we want to leave, never be afraid of failure, there is no harm in trying. What we believe makes life beautiful or meaningful can be seen in this way, making certain achievements, developing a moral character or learning from relationships from family members.
Living our life and trying to become what we want to be and not what others has set for us indicates a positive value of what ones’ life can exhibit. Therefore let us achieve our choice worthy purpose and by so doing it will bring to us a satisfaction that cannot be measured.

And the only influential person that can help us is GOD. I say this because i know that God has a plan for the universe. If we believe and trust in him he will help us realize this plan.
Am telling you my reader that our words, movement, thoughts and the very sentence that we write or create are our inherently norms, rules and our restrictions. We are the architect of our life. Therefore lets LIVE.
i am living my life on this blog.


Tuesday, 14 February 2012


Today has its valentine in the air with people showing some love everywhere. My day has been so busy though but i did enjoyed it in a little way with my boyfriend. How? I went out with him to the organization where i hope to use as my case study for my long essay on the way i seized the opportunity to spend time with him chatting and hopping from one place to another, one bus station to another and holding hands together...*blushing*. Before the valentine my boyfriend did ask me “how are you going to celebrate the Vals day? And i replied...”Everyday is my Val as long as i get to spend some time with you and love you” uhmmmm not just him any way but with the people i love. Like who I am, I love people around me..teasing me and making me laugh in other words good sense of humour is what i look out for in any friendship..lol.
HERE is my surprise....WOW!!!

i was short of words...this is a big surprise to me, cos he was with me all through the day and didn't even act like he noticed today...okay!! i was thinking he is not a fan of val's day. is not a bad thing though. Every February 14, across the whole world, candy, flowers and gift are exchanged between loved ones all in the name of St.valentine.

The history of Valentine's Day and the story of its patron saint is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? 

The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
 Thats how as i have read that valentine came to be. Now back to my story, we parted after we are done with the agenda for today. what am i even saying.. the long and short of the story was..me being in the class room doing my research and a female friend of ours ringed me and said please come to the room i have something to say to you. i was a little shock and scared of what she wanted to say to me cos i have never been in such friendliness with her..lol i met her when i stared dating my boyfriend. but look she got me a hamper....look up that it on my bed. am SO much haPPy. HAPPY Val's DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Late Whitney Houston's funeral will be held Saturday in the church where she first showcased her singing talents as a child. The owner of the Whigham Funeral Home in Newark said Tuesday that the funeral will be held at noon at the New Hope Baptist Church in Newark.
The funeral home said that no wake would be held and that there would be no public memorial at Newark's Prudential Center, the sports arena that the family had discussed as a possible venue.
Over the years, Whitney Houston kept at it; taking the time to sing. how i loved her song so much. To think that i listened to her song a night before her death..oh !! that even broken me down. Take about cool music to put me in a fantasy  and day dreaming and  i will show you..Whiney Houston is on my collection... the most favourite songs of hers that i play most are “DANCE WITH MY FATHER”, “I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU”,  “THE GREATEST LOVE”, and “ ALL AT ONCE”.  I don't know anyone else who loves her  music so much as i do. For my after wedding party, i'd rather play these most favourite music of than any HONEY moon stuff....lolzzzz (face covered)
I miss her so much..not that i have seen her before *i wish*
I heard that after the autopsy on sunday, authorities said there were no indications of foul play and no obvious signs of trauma on Houston
. Houston was one of the world's best-selling artists from the mid-1980s to the late 1990s. But as she struggled with drugs, her majestic voice became raspy, and she couldn't hit the high notes.
 Houston left behind one child, daughter Bobbi Kristina Brown, 18, from her marriage to singer Bobby Brown. Oh how i feel for her... i can imagine her situation.

God please protect our loved ones. in JESUS Name ..Amen

Saturday, 11 February 2012

OMG!!!!!.....Whitney Houston dies at the age of 48


Such a sad day. on the 11th of feb, 2012, Whitney Houston leaves this planet to the great beyond. she was 48 year old. the singer was said to die at Beverly Hilton Hotel. no one knows what killed her for now but some media houses are saying it was due to drug overdose...other said suicide..SO SAD!!!!

may her soul rest in peace..AMEN

please judge this...

Keeping secrets is such a terrible thing, just as telling lies is; I know because I’m keeping one and I’m burning to tell you all about it. It’s a surprise i haven’t blown up yet. NICE WEEKEND everyone and a very hearty VALENTINE WISHES in advance to my brothers and sisters. How’s everyone this week? Me? I’m not sure how I’m feeling. Oh darn it! I am sure how I’m feeling! I am in a very lousy mood right now. A day I should have spent hopping from lectures to friends room and there to fast food joints to eat and chat filling the gaps between my teeth and sorting them out with tooth picks has just been loused up by  some school work .
What happened?  It all began last week, no but yes last week, when i had to write all over my proposal for my project work and been returned to make some few corrections and add up more informations....Gosh!!!! 
Ruth  is the sweetest thing ever and even in that  she is my good  friend let me  say precious baby on campus. she  always asked me how I was, and  I could in my power  be as supportive as possible for her.
What I have called the community to complain about is about what happened afterwards. Would you believe that  okay what happened was this. Ruth was feeling low as the  days goes by and feeling a little depressed  we all get that way sometimes  and I tried encouraging her, telling her how cute she was, and telling the tons of things she’s accomplished in such a short space of time on campus. We talked for over an hour and true to myself, I was as patient and supportive as ever. She calmed down, seemed to lighten up and I left it at that. She came back again, revisiting the same subject we’d just dealt with. Calmly, and still true to my nature, I considered that it might be prudent to try another approach and i tried to swing the mood to a more upbeat one. I talked about the funny incidents that had brightened my day, in the hope that it would cheer her up a little. Hmmmmmmmmm  GUESS !!!! What I got for myself was  trouble .it came as a serious snubbing and not checking up on me.  I accused myself of  being uncomfortable in unfamiliar territory and would use humour and jokes to get out of it.what wouid i have done? I ran!!!!!!!!!   I was so angry! Who was it that spent  a whole sleepless nights caring for her during her time of need? Who was it that kept talking until she  had nothing else to say? Who was it that… In short, I’m not going to provoke myself. I will be the big sister that i have always been.  I will ignore the fact that you,Ruth, completely soured my week and made me cancel all my appointments, kept me holed up in my room drown in anger and my lost appetite. But, I’ll be the big sister. I will forgive. I hold no grudge against you. I only ask that you, my people judge this matter and tell me what I have done wrong. Have a great week everyone, and to you too my dearest Ruth!!

Sunday, 5 February 2012

hello everyone!!!!!

I wish you all a great start to a new a week. I have little to write this week because the little that i had, has been pushed to a far corner somewhere in the back of my head because of a lill girl called my sister.

Does it make sense that she would stay in a whole week without calling me to say hi... What haven’t I sent? TEXT, FACEBOOK messages, and CALLS which actually go through to the very annoying voice message asking me to leave yet another message! How many more should i leave? The question is does it make a difference?  

Which kin’ wahala be dis eh?!

God, I pray you keep her safe so I can volunteer to be your rod of chastisement upon her .She just answered the phone! See?...
(sister) Hey baby”!..
(me whispers) Can you imagine? Just come back first, and you’ll see what I’ll do to you!

Thanks guys for lending me a listening ear jor! Let me go and put my project work in order as I ponder between this and how am going to achieve my dreams. Have a great week everyone!


Wednesday, 1 February 2012

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Hello everyone,

I have had a stressful week so far and more to come ahead cos as i try as much to work hard to pull of these stress they don’t seem to drop off my shoulder....but why am i here? I am here because i am so excited about these blog, am so excited about you that is reading what am about to say.

I am going to be a nuisance but who cares....i am going to write and even break off the writing rules, am sure no one will care. I have had the toughest and depressing week ever. so many assignments, lectures’ and yet a long easy (project work) and my supervisor had turned me down several time to re-do my work. I still have lots of challenges ahead of me...yeah!!!!  But GUESS!!!  I have GOD. he is amazing, he is on my side. He will never give up on me till i finish this task and move on to the other. Though i see myself in difficulties and he seems so quite...am sure he did that cos he wants me to learn and grow stronger for tomorrow. With his hand he wipes my tears when i cry that is because he is in love with me.

I am an aspiring magazine writer, though i have never shown anyone my write up before apart from my secondary school teacher who told me that i am a bad writer. She made me quit writing for so many years till this year. Neither do i have one to coach me in but i know i can do this...cos am doing the rehearsal on this blog...lol. i am also an aspiring company owner  dream to  own a worldwide magazine company in collaboration with fashion and music industry..i don’t even have a degree certificate yet. But will get one by the end of this year.

This is a blog where i get to show my skills, share my thoughts with people who visit this blog. I long to see people read my blog and leave a comment on it. Your comment will inspire me to forge ahead, please point out my mistakes cos i love to learn from them..i couldn’t have ask for a better place to learn than here...I LOVE YOU ALL ***kisses***